There doesn't seem to be a completely separate type of ‘male depression’. However, some symptoms are more common in men than in women. These include: irritability sudden anger increased loss of control greater risk-taking aggression. Men are also more likely to commit suicide. Attitudes Some men are particularly competitive and concerned with power and success. If you are like this, it may be harder to tell someone that you feel fragile or that you need help. You may feel strongly that you have to do it on your own. You may also worry that if you do talk to your partner - or anyone else - about how you feel, they will not be sympathetic. These attitudes can stop you from talking to your loved ones and doctors about how you're feeling - so you don't get the help that you need. Personality Shy men seem to be more likely to become depressed. However, depression can happen to anyone, even powerful personalities. Winston Churchill called it "his black dog". Behaviour Instead of talking about how you feel, you may use alcohol or drugs to feel better. This usually makes things worse, certainly in the long run. Your work will suffer and alcohol often leads to irresponsible, unpleasant or dangerous behaviour. You may also focus more on your work than your relationships or home life. This can cause conflicts with your wife or partners. What are your thoughts on the above?
I think depression in guys is different from running sites like these for years it was instantly obvious to me that female members were more popular than male members. Though in private discussion it seemed men were as equally effected by depression as females it's just guys don't seem to talk about it as much. I think times are getting better with alot of mental health awareness campaigns out there now things are a million times better than they used to be though I can't imagine there ever being a complete change to this. It's all about Psychology really for example most boys grow up playing with cars and toy guns and girls with dolls even to this day you still find the army has more male members and nursing is still a female dominated profession though things have changed and with all professions we see all genders working within these areas now it's still obvious though which gender dominates the professions. What I'm trying to get at is we are programmed from a young age especially guys that talking isn't ok and that we have to be the strong keep the family together kind of guy with hearts of stone and until there is a change here we wont see any change with the way guys are when it comes to depression and mental health issues. Just my two pence worth lol.
I suffer from mild depression, so I can give a first hand comment on this.. I live in Singapore and all the guys have to serve army for 2 years whether they like it or not. Being a 3d animator student before I enlisted, it is really tough for me to endure all the crap they give me when I could be further studying or working on my passion. Things I've noticed about myself all these months : Sudden Anger Increased loss of control Irritability Things that I definitely do not have : Greater risk-taking More likely to suicide Aggression I get angry and irritated at the slightest thing. I know this and I admit it.. I can be honest now because I'm on a break for a few days so it's not that bad. I've been suffering so much these months and I've probably thrown my temper at a couple of my friends now I feel so bad. However, I find myself not taking more risk. I'm not the kind of person to take risk, and I do things after calculating what are the risks because I don't like to lose. (I used to do some investment.) I've had some suicidal thoughts but suicide was never an option for me. All these crap will end in a year's time and when that happens I'll just look back and laugh about it. When I get depressed or angry, I don't feel like beating anyone up or anything severe because I know it's not worth it. I have a good future. For most of the people I know, they drink and smoke a lot when they are depressed. (Army is really depressing) They don't tell others but you can tell. It's very obvious (at least to me). I don't smoke or drink though.. I don't really tell others I'm depressed, but I'll talk to them about things that I want to do after I'm out of army.
It has to do with the whole way we communicate. Men don't like to talk about their feelings (except maybe gay men, I don't know) We don't go around telling everyone how we feel, and we don't ask others how they feel. That's the big difference, in that women will tell anyone who will listen (and many who won't) and will also ask others how they're feeling. This communication helps the woman deal with her feelings in a more positive way. Men will express their feelings non-verbally, in the ways you previously mentioned.
