I have a friend that drinks a lot, I know she has a problem and I want to help her but im not sure what I can do to help though. I am frightened of trying to help her but then because she is in denial her thinking im interfering with her life. Even if I did want to help, I wouldnt know where to start. would she think im interfering or do you think it is the best thing to do (get her help)
does she know she has a problem? what my counsellor done with me (i never admitted i had a problem) she pretty much forced me to see how much i was drinking in a week maybe you could try that but no matter what you try she may still think your interfering but it depends on her thinking
I think the time old saying goes here: "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink" If your friend doesn't want help for her drinking habit and really doesn't want to kick the problem then she wont there has to be a WANTING to do it before she can commit and achieve in my opinion. Now if she wants to do it but doesn't have the willpower help her it's not interfering it's helping but if she doesn't want to then there is little you can do apart from give your advice and support but if she doesn't want to listen and do anything about it I think that's where your problem will lie. It's like these advice forums most people come here with problems but a WANTING to get better and recover they just lack willpower people who don't intend to get better wouldn't sign up to a site like this if you get me?
The problem is she won't admit she has a problem with it...or should I say one day she says she has but then then next she will be in total denial. I can see how much she is ruining her life because the alcohol is controlling her. I have given her the link to here and she says yeah maybe but like the drinking she changes her mind about it.
I think sometimes we maybe have to accept we have done all we can Katie. I know it's hard but sometimes it's the truth? Do you feel there is anything in your power left that you could do? Sometimes it's hard to admit we're helpless but the reality is sometimes there's little left we can do for people and have to leave the ball in there court.
Alcoholism is a great problem and must be dealt with swiftly as it could affect the health of the person and the people surrounding the person especially the family and relatives. Talk to the person heart to heart and one on one and convince her that she has a problem. Self-denial is really a big problem. Just continue supporting her and eventually she will see the light -- with your help.
I have alcoholism, and whenever my family tried to make me admit that I had a problem and that I was an alcoholic, I didn't. I decided that they were idiots and didn't understand. You friend has to get better for HERSELF, not for you or a family member. Just let go and let God.
