In most cases of rape it is very hard for the victim to believe, really believe, that it is not somehow partly their fault. Victims of rape believe they are responsible for some aspect leading up to the rape. They feel something they did or did not do, led to the rape. When this happens they almost always beat themselves up with could I, should I, would I. There is NO REASON OR NOTHING YOU’VE SAID OR DONE THAT EXCUSES OR JUSTIFIES RAPE! No one action determines you’ve crossed the line and asked for it. The first step to recovery is ACCEPTING THAT IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT, IN ANY WAY! It is NOT YOUR FAULT and it is your right to choose not to have sex. When someone crosses that line without your willingness they violated you, YOU DID NOT ASK FOR IT OR DESERVE IT!
I agree. That's usually the breakthrough in therapy if the victim can come to believe that. Although I don't really like to use the word 'victim'. Nobody deserves abuse, no matter how 'small' or 'insignificant' it seems.
