How long to get over someone

How long do you think it takes to get over someone?

Can you ever be fully over someone you truly loved?

I was with this one girl for years and we've been split now longer than we were together but I just can't stop loving her.

In fact I think it actually effects any relationship I now try to have with a girl because I'm not over her.

I know there's no way of getting back with her and I know we're both different people now anyway.

But I can't let go of that love we once had.

Any advice?

It depends on individuals.
It takes someone a night to forget a person while it takes someone else his/her lifetime to forget a person.
The more you love, the more difficult and more time it would take you to be over him/her.
Still, i think as special human beings we must be strong in mind no matter when. If you cant be together you must try hard to forget her and move on. There will be someone who is suitable for you.
Time will give you an answer.

I guess the saying "To get over the old is to get under a new" doesn't applies to you. hehehe...

You really don't need to forget her to move on. Its acceptance that you really need. If we push ourselves to forget someone, the more we make ourselves don't want to let go. We should realize the reason why it didn't work and should learn from it and accept the fact that it will never be ok. Believe me, it is hard specially if you really really really love the person.

The sooner we accept it the sooner we can move on. The only person stopping us to be happy is us. And if you want to be happy, be.

I remember cyclops said in the movie x-men.... Not all of us heal as fast like you do, wolverine.

This is actually a tough question to answer.

There is no pre determined amount of time as to when or if you get over someone. That sort of varies from person to person. It also depends on how deeply your heart was set on someone.

If you're a person left alone to your thoughts, then you may not get over the person so easily and it can take awhile. But if you have constant distraction around you, it'll help you get over a person much faster.

But above all else, the most important factor is if you actually want to get over the person. In other words, it depends on how or if you accept things as they are.

Well said! We need to busy ourselves to take oour mind off and put it on more important things to do. Nothing productive will happen if we always succumb on our heartaches.

Exactly,

And not just that, but you have to be careful. I didn't think there really was a such thing as dieing from a broken heart. I thought that was an urban legend. But I've seen it first hand so it's very real.

So my advice, you do anything in your power to move on with your life. The sooner the better.

It is situational. There is no set amount of time it takes to get over someone. The only thing to worry about is to make sure you don't rush things. If you aren't over your ex, don't just move on to someone else. It will be unfair to the next one to bring all that emotional baggage into the relationship. There is nothing wrong with taking as much time as you need; one day you will wake up and it won't hurt anymore.

You're putting too much value on this girl. Its okay to be in love with someone, but I think you'll find that if you get out there and ate, you'll realize that there are plenty of girls who are special. So get out there and live, and you'll find love again.

I used to love someone since I was around 12. Well we split when I was 18 and it took me about three years to get over her. I thought she was the only one I could ever love, and she was my ideal. Looking back on it I can't help but regret what a moron I was back then.

Nowadays I don't like her very much, when we do talk, it isn't for very long. I can't talk to her properly and it always feels as she is in some clouds floating above me, and just talking with me whenever she's bored and just feeling so faraway.

No time is definite when you want to move on and forget someone, it really depends on the person on how he/she will face the truth that you need to get over it and forget your pass. Its painful I know but the fact that time is the key for your emotions and feelings to subside. No one knows...

I think it depends on the amount of love you have for each other. If you are really attached to that certain person, you will find it harder to get over him compared to someone you care less. It is a matter of time to find out how long would it be.

It depends on the length and depth of a relationship. My last breakup took me about a year before I finally accepted it was really over. I think time heals as it pass by. He just simply fades away in my mind and I guess my career helped me to get over it. Life is full surprises and unexpected moments. It really does.

How long does it take to get over someone? It depends on the emotional investment. It sounds like you love her very deeply. It may take years and it's important to allow yourself time to grieve because...in a situation like that...you experience the death of a relationship. Take it one day at a time and do your best to 'lift yourself' mentally and emotionally. It's no picnic to be heart-broken but you will eventually experience being a stronger person. Don't try to rebound and give yourself time to heal and grow.

So sorry you're in this situation. Maybe it's okay that you never get over someone, but accept the fact that she's not meant to be in your life. I'm not sure if you still talk to her, but if you try, maybe you will have a better idea of what about her/the relationship you can't get over. Sometimes it's the good memories you're pining...Good luck! And I feel your pain.