So I've not spoke to this one girl in a VERY long time. And there was so much left unsaid so much I wanna say now I've matured alot more. So much on my mind. I jst know she aint gonna feel the same. But I dunno I still wanna let her know I love her still after all this time. Should I message her or is it best not to. I dunno there's so much I wanna say sorry and thankyou for but it's been so long she seems to be doing well and moved on. So should I or shouldn't I advice much appreciated.
you have 2 choices (if you message her) 1 talk to her as a friend and leave your feelings out of it for a while till you get to know her again and then if you want to you can tell her how you feel about her or 2 you can just come right out and say it and see what happens but if you message her i would go for number 1 just to ease things along and then you can workout weather or not to tell her how you feel depending on what her responses are and take things from there i hope that made sense mate
Yea made sense. Just I know she wouldn't wanna be friends because of some of the things I did some of the mistakes I made. So it really only leaves me with option two but like I said so much time has past that maybe that's not the right thing to do? Cheers Craig.
like i said take it slow tell her youve matured a lot and try apologizing and see what happens you never know Rick she might have put it in the past. maybe its not the right thing to to but if you really want to apologize and let her know that you regret the mistakes and bad choices maybe you could at lease get back to being friends that choice is yours if you are going to message her think hard about what you are going to say have it planned out in your head maybe write it down and read it then put it in a message
With all you posted about the lies the decieving and the cheating, and the fact that she has 'moved on' I wouldnt advise it...in the end it is your choice, but I think you know deep down it will hurt you more contacting her If she is in a relationship and it goes sour she can hold that against you too by saying the other person was too uncomfortable you contacting her Let us know what you decide
Well, Rick, I know it's been a while but I still believe I know you quite well. I think you'll regret this if you don't message and talk to her. I may be jumping to assumptions in thinking who it is, but even though I've never spoke to this girl before, from what I've heard she may actually take time to listen to what you have to say. I think you should go for it and message her anyway - you can't lose anything from doing so Good luck!
I just want to take the time to actually thank you both for replying. I feel you both know me VERY well. For now I've actually taken the decision not to message her for the simple reason I don't think anything positive will become of it, it will only make me feel better but I know it will pull her back as she had made so much progress since the split. Sometimes loving someone so much is letting them go I suppose and while I may regret this decision for me I suppose life isn't always about being selfish and getting what I want. Thanks again I really do appreciate your time and efforts and it's good to know that people really do care. Rick
I know that must have been a hard decision for you Rick, and you know you can message me at anytime if you wish. You might be wrong in thinking it may pull her back, but if that's what you believe then follow that. It doesn't have to mean you can't contact her at all, you may like to talk to her for a while first and then it might feel right for you to tell her then
Yeah! I think you should message her and tell her what you have in your mind after all these time. If you dont speak it out she will never get the chance to know it. Be a man and tell her what you think about her and how much you love her.
I would say go ahead and message her. Just don't get to weird about it. I know you might be worried about what she will say but remember this: she can't break up with you when you aren't together. There is really nothing to lose in this situation, you will either start a productive conversation or get some closure.
I would suggest you move on with your life. But then I don't really know what I'm talking about. If you want to message her, then do it. I don't see the harm, except maybe that you could miss out on future opportunities by dwelling on the past.
There is nothing wrong for greeting her a simple 'hi'. She may or may not reply it but then at least you tried letting her know she's still on your mind. One simple step is enough. If it does not work, just let her go off your mind and move on.
Sure...take a risk. It sounds like you're ready to pour your heart out to her and regardless...of what she's doing at this time in her life...she might appreciate your honesty. I always respect and appreciate people who will openly communicate with me. I say...go for it!
Do it. What do you have to lose other than your pride? Someone wrote me once after a long period of silence, and I think it's illuminating. I had no idea at all that the person was feeling that way. So, do it! And good luck!
