parents or lover

Discussion in 'Dating Romance & Relationships' started by smile4u, Jun 1, 2011.


  1. Level 2 Mingler 20%

    It happens to a lot of people out there that their parents dislike their boyfriends/girlfriends.
    Some parents even say that if their child goes on dating that person the child should not call them mom and dad. Luckily this doesnt happen to me. I assume this is a very tough situation to people in love. On one hand, its their parents, on the other hand, its their beloved ones. Which one should be choosen? If it happened on you what would you do?

  2. Level 2 Mingler 20%

    I should go for parents, if you choose for your girlfriend and you lose your her you have nothing anymore.
    If you go for your parents you have always somebody to talk, they should never leave you!
    I hope this helped you.

  3. Level 3 Mingler 40%

    Parents should not make such idle threats cause the kid might take them up on the offer to never call back. Most of these kinds of threats are meaningless. Speaking as a parent, I can tell you that no parent really wants to lose contact with their grown up child over this situation. The parent is just desperate and probably fears the child will come to a bad end if they continue their current path. There are still better ways to handle these situations without threatening, coercion or breaking up the family.

  4. Level 3 Mingler 40%

    If the parents don't like the partner then it must be for a reason. Parents don't just decide to make your life miserable all of a sudden, they know when something is not good for their children no matter what age they are. I am not saying they are always %100 right but it's pretty close.

  5. Level 3 Mingler 40%

    This is such a bad problem for a person. It's also common, so that's another terrible sign. :( I think sometimes, communication is the problem here. Parents sometimes don't put in much effort to get to know their offspring's love, so relationships don't work. Sometimes, the lover doesn't make time to give respect to the parents so they come off as bad influences. It's a dilemma, for sure, and I hope that my parents won't make me choose someday, as there is no good possible solution for that.

  6. Level 3 Mingler 40%

    Well, I'll always go choose my parents. :D Even if I pursue the relationship, I don't think I can truly be happy disobeying my parents. There is also a 99% possibility that the relationship don't work out and end well, and what does that leave you? Nothing. :D

  7. Level 3 Mingler 40%

    I believed that parents always wanted a good life for their children. And I also believed that parents made that restriction if the child is still young and need to focus on he/his study than roaming around with the boyfriend/girlfriend. Parents love their children, that's why as much as possible they want to impose such rule like " No boyfriend/girlfriend. But it also normal for the teenagers to admires and had an admirerers and be in love which is parents should understand as well. Instead, of putting such hard restriction like a wall, parents must go along with their child's affection but with advices and constant monitoring. We already know how crucial our teenage stage especially when we enter into a relationship at a very young age. If you will ask me, if my parents or boyfriend, I will choose my parents. But if yo will ask me, if parents or husband it is another thing and don't need to choose because both needs to be chosen and be loved. :)

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