I am asking the ladies: Which do you value most: Looks or the Character of the person? It seems that a lot of girls are more on the things visible to the eyes and just discard the real person deep inside.
Well it goes both ways, guys do it just as much as girls do. A woman who wants a meaningful relationship will care about personality, interests, family, etc... and not just looks.
I usually go for a person's character. If he has good looks thats a bonus, but I prefer he be talented. Either, sing, could cook, dance, plays an instrument, or something he is good at. I like guys with passion with regards to their talents.
Character. I don't understand peoples looks, not saying I will not acknowlegde someone who is grotesque or beautiful, but thee have to be extreme for me to notice.
I agree with clauemi, both sex do it. However, looks is not going to make the full connection alone. It's usually just the draw. In my experience though, the good looking girls are the ones that are stuck up and are simply not that smart, putting it lightly...
Yeah that's generally the case. The good-looking girls have way too much to flaunt and most of them feel that most guys "simply aren't good enough", since they think they have much more to offer and thus should get much more in return. I do know some girls who are pretty and not stuck up in that way though, so we shouldn't over-generalise. I find that as long as the girl is average-looking, that's fine by me. Character, however, is much more important. You can change a person's appearance, but what's underneath the appearance, you can't.
Mostly we like and appreciate the opposite sex with the appearance. I guess there is nothing to be wrong if he/she is handsome or beautiful. Good character plus good appearance is better and would say, I will prefer both.But my brother once said, that he is so thankful to have a wife who is not pretty but responsible for his needs as well as to the children and take charge the in the house than to have a beautiful wife who's many eyes are on her. Actually, it depends on the individual and everybody change when in love.
That's true. Being too beautiful or overly handsome attracts attention, sometimes even unwanted attention. However I don't think this is a huge problem as long as there's trust between the couple. If your brother truly loves his wife and trusts her, I don't think having a beautiful wife "who has many eyes on her" matters since she will remain faithful.
As long as he's kissable, I don't care what he looks like. I'm always attracted to a person's inner-self, how they treat others, our common interests, our ability to hold a conversation, etc. I've seen some of the most (what society deems) gorgeous guys turn completely ugly before my eyes by the way they act...and on the flip-side, could have potentially fallen in love with some of the (what society deems) less-gorgeous guys simply by their acts of kindness, or the goodness within them. Looks go away...there aren't any hot 80 year olds out there. Brad Pitt isn't even looking so hot these days. So, it's best to go for substance.
Well looks are the initial things we see in a guy. But getting along requires more than good looks. The guy must have really nice attitude and positive outlook in life, in my opinion. And he must be understanding and broadminded enough to be able to cope up with the mood swings of a girl.
Nope. I find women likes men more for their character than looks. I do know that girls hates a**holes. I really don't think abusing the girl would make her interested in you.
I have to be both physically and emotionally attracted to a guy. There has to be something interesting about what he talks about that would turn me on and there has to be something about him physically (even if it's just a smile or his eyes) that turns me on.
I like your avatar...bluebumblebee. Physical appearance or character? How visual are you? I understand that most men are quite visual which is why Playboy is still in business. That being said...I don't think all men are so shallow that they fall for a pretty woman. Personally...I'm more feeling oriented than visual so I'll choose character over a gorgeous guy. If we enjoy each others' personalities and we laugh with each other who cares about all the rest?
I think it's both. I think you have to like the person on the inside... and outside. You can have an awesome relationship, but if you're not attracted to that person...there's no spark. Yes, you can keep on going with your relationship, but it will be much less satisfying. Or, if all you have is hot sex....things are gonna go downhill eventually. It has to be a balance.
